During my maternity leave, I made the decision to quit my job to raise a family and it was the best decision for me. Although I made a pause in my career, I eventually want to go back to work. I love being a mom but I am more than that. I don’t regret leaving the workforce and although at times I miss parts of my old life, I can honestly say I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
I’ve been a workholic since age 15
During my last trimester of pregnancy, I started to get ready for the arrival of the baby. I looked into daycare and analyzed my financial situation. My husband and I discussed various scenarios and created spreadsheets with budgets for our new life. I’ve been a workaholic since I started working at age 15. Being first generation and daughter of immigrant parents, I was determined to make my family proud and achieve my American dream. I paid my way through college and graduate school. I worked for important companies and held various positions. For years my priority was my career that I wasn’t sure if I even wanted to have children.
Having children is expensive
We realized that our financial situation would take a major hit if I quit my job. I don’t want to sound cliche and be unrealistic by saying “money isn’t everything” because having children is expensive and it’s your obligation to financially provide for them. If you have children you have to obviously feed and clothed them but also invest in their health, wellbeing and education. It’s a lifelong commitment.
Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job ever
As I felt the baby kick and caressed my pregnant belly I knew that the best decision was to walk away from my job and devote my time to my son. I was aware of the financial troubles that lied ahead so I took full advantage of my maternity leave. I made sure I got those checks. Two weeks before I was due to return to work I let them know I wouldn’t be going back.
Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job I’ve ever had. You don’t clock in and out and there are no bathroom breaks. Being on a sole income comes with sacrifices and causes tensions in your marriage. You modify your lifestyle and in a way loose that financial freedom. You can no longer splurge even at the grocery store. You live on a budget and become even more cautious of your finances.
Maternity is more than a job
Even though money is tight, mom life fulfills me more than any job could. I am so blessed to be able to devote my time to my son. I value our time and try to capture every milestone. My heart is full of wonderful memories and I have an immense gratitude to my husband. I appreciate his hard work and I understand that at times he’s under a lot of pressure. I’m thankful he’s supportive and has taken on the financial burden. However, he’s also a hands-on father and fully involved in raising our son.
I miss parts of my old life and I plan on going back to work. Obviously I need to think of my son’s future and provide for my family. I want to contribute financially and support my husband by sharing economical obligations. I want to wear my cute office outfit and have adult conversations. I want to continue to fulfill personal goals and set an example for my son. I want to encourage him to dream big by working hard. I don’t know when I’ll go back to my career, for now I’m living the most rewarding role, being a mommy.