I was talking to my mom the other day and she said something that struck a nerve with me. Her coworker said: “How can someone with a masters degree waste her education by being a stay at home mom.” I was livid and when talking to a family member who’s currently pregnant, she said: “I’ve worked too hard for my career, I’m not going to throw it all away to stay home. Plus, financially it’s the worst decision you could make.” As I recovered from those jabs, I started thinking about the misconceptions of being a stay at home mom.
A women’s role
I would like to think we have come a long way but unfortunately some people are stuck in their old way of thinking. Who are we to judge a mother if she does or does not join the workforce? A women’s role is not to have children and take care of the house. A woman’s role is to live her life as she pleases and be happy with herself. Much debate can be said about women balancing careers and babies but there’s no right nor wrong answer. There is no limitation on what we can do and more power to mothers breaking down those barriers.
I worked hard
I worked hard to earn a masters degree (graduated with honors). I made a pause in my career for motherhood but I have a list of things I still want to accomplish. I’m not walking away from my career. I know that we live in a fast paced world and it won’t be easy to return to the workforce. Companies are constantly changing, it’s competitive and I’ll have to start from the bottom. I might have to get additional training, go for a lower salary, take different position, etc. It might take a while for me to even get a job opportunity. There’s infinite scenarios but I won’t know what will happen until I cross that bridge.
I can’t predict the future but I know for a fact my son won’t be a baby forever
My baby will grow up in a blink of an eye and I’ll never get those moments back. There are women that can afford to stay at home and there are women that can’t. My mother and father both had to work two jobs to make ends meet. Women like my mom have to leave their kids with babysitters or in daycares, work long shifts and come home to cook and clean. Other women hold powerful positions and have the luxury to afford nannies. Some women simply don’t want to stay at home and can’t wait to go to work. Whatever the situation is, ever women decides what is best for them and their families.
Being a stay at home mom is not easy and it’s upsetting that some working moms make it seem like they have it harder. Motherhood is hard no matter what your situation is and it’s not a competition of who has it better or worst. Remember that life isn’t greener on the other side. You don’t know what the other mom is going through unless you walked in her shoes. Let’s support one another because being a mom is challenging enough. I have a masters degree but cut me some slack as I’m learning the hardest subject in life, how to raise a human.